For those of you with school aged children, and joint custody... what is your schedule? How do you make it work so that they go to one school, and still have time with the other parent?
Right now our schedule is really screwy, but it's been like this since we split up so it worked ok, up until now. I have them Sun night, M, T, and he has them W, Th, Fr nights (I have them in the day all week) then every other saturday we switch.
D will be in school full time this year, and he will be riding the bus to school. I told my ex that I would not be picking them up at 6am on Th/Fr mornings to get him to the bus on time, and that we would have to do something different when school starts.
I want to have them m-f (get them back sun night, he takes them Fri night), but he's suddenly being a complete douche about it, even though I've been talking about it since the end of school. He literally has 1 1/2-2 hours after he gets them on his nights before they need to be in bed (8) but he lets them stay up way later than that. I see no point in it, but he bitches that he'd lose time with them (even though he just puts them in front of the tv). He doesn't want them on weekends, because he MIGHT have plans (he never does
), and I've told him that I will take them on weekends that he wants to go do something.
Essentially, he wants his time with them, but does nothing but put them in front of the TV, and go against any grounding/disciplinary action I have with them, that he KNOWS about, and agrees to before he takes them.
It makes sense that they stay with me during the week for school... but his head is so far up his ass all he can do is argue with me about it. Our legal custody plan is 2wks on/off. In which case, he'd be paying about 1k a month for day care (before/after school for D, and all day for T) for his 2 weeks, and he can't afford that. He only gives me 300 a month to watch them on "his" days, and bitches about that, even though he doesn't have to pay child support or alimony.
I am SO stressed out right now, he's so stupid, I can't get through to him EVER. I'm not going to get 3 kids up and ready every morning, to take D to school, so I want T to be on a schedule where he sleeps in, while I take D to the bus stop (or the school), and the baby will be asleep with the bf.