07-22-2010, 08:51 AM
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Fostering independence or being overly-indulgent?
Anna turned two in May. She is in the fiercely independent stage right now, wants to do everything herself. She has to walk out the door by herself, climb in the van by herself, climb in her carseat by herself, do the chest clip herself...etc. At night, we let her have some water from a water bottle when we put her to bed (she can take a sip, we don't let her keep it in the crib). She has to take the cap off herself and put it on herself...I'm sure you get the point. Hubby says we are spoiling her by letting her "get away" with doing this stuff, and that we'd never have let Owen "get away" with it. I say that Owen had no interest in doing this stuff at this age b/c he didn't have an older sibling he had to keep up with, and that we aren't spoiling her, we are encouraging her independence. She DOES have fits if we don't let her do what she wants, but the fits don't make me give in.