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Old 04-16-2010, 02:02 PM
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Breasfeeding Harassment!

I am a fan of this page on facebook and they just posted these awesome comebacks for people harassing you if you are nursing! I absolutely love them and intend on using them! Just last night my FIL was giving me crap about nursing my 8 month old!

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Witty comebacks for replying to breastfeeding harassment
Most breastfeeding moms have experienced it at least once. You're feeding your baby and some nosey stranger decides to insult you or ask you personal questions. Your meddlesome mother-in-law just has to share her opinion of everything you are doing wrong as a mom. Maybe your own husband is not fully supportive of your choice to feed your baby the way Mother Nature intended.

Here is a definitive list of comebacks and replies for all types of breastfeeding related harassment. Feel free to share your own comebacks in the comments section and we will add them!

"Are you still nursing?"

"Of course not! My mom weaned me a long time ago. My baby is though!"

"Absolutely, isn't it wonderful?"

"Right now? No, he's over there playing."

"I was never a nurse."

"Yes, his doctor is so thrilled. So many moms give up due to pressures of rude friends and family."

"Everyone asks that, it must be because he's so incredibly healthy."

"Yes, he deserves only the very best. "

"Of course, I am glad you keep asking. It shows you want the best for him."

"It's her turn, you'll have to wait in line!"

"When are you planning on weaning?"

"I'm not. He'll wean me."

(pause) "Oh, you were talking to me? I thought you were asking him...he can't answer you yet."

"Maybe when she moves out. She can always come home for a snack, though."

"When are you planning on minding your own business?"

"He hasn't told me yet."

"I haven't asked him yet."

"I hope not for a while. We're both enjoying our time together."

"What, and get my PMS back? are you crazy?"

"I weaned a long time ago, when I was two I think."

"I don't know. He seems to still enjoy it and I enjoy those extra 500 calories I burn."

"Thanks for asking. Everyone seems to need an answer for that except for me and my child."

"When will you give him cow's milk?"

"Whenever he becomes a baby cow."

"When he starts thinking he's a calf."

"Whenever human milk stops being the best for human babies."

"Breastfeeding is gross!"

"So is changing diapers, yet people do it all the time."

"The reason women have breasts is to feed their young."

"Hello? Did you not realize that humans are mammals?"

"Seems to me that you have some issues you need to work out."

"Feeding my baby with whatever it is that they put in formula is gross to me."

"Watching people stuff their faces in restaurants is gross. Should that not be allowed?"

"Watching people eating crappy fast food is gross, and they do that in public all the time!"

"Why would you want to nurse when you can just get formula?"

"Gee, I donít know. It must have something to do it with being free, always the right temperature, portable, what nature intended, and the best way I can nourish my baby."

"Have you checked out the price of formula lately?"

"Breastmilk is sterile and safe - the same cannot always be said for formula."

"Why give my baby something man made when I can give her what nature intended?"

"You should go feed her in the bathroom."

"Do YOU eat in the bathroom?"

"Why don't YOU go eat in a filthy bathroom?"

"If my breastfeeding offends you, I will be happy to ask your waiter to bring you your food in the restroom."

"How long are you going to do that? Shouldnít you be feeding your baby solid food now? "

"I plan to follow medical recommendations: The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months and continued breastfeeding at least through the end of the first year. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding for at least two years and beyond as long as mom and baby want to continue."

"Oh, until he goes off to college."

"Its just until I learn to cook!"

"Donít you want your husband to be able to bond with the baby?"

"Youíre right, holding the baby, talking to the baby, changing the baby, bathing the baby, and spending time just being with the baby sure wonít be enough for him to bond with the baby."

"He will bond the same way fathers have bonded for their babies in the thousands of years before formula was invented."

"You want to get up in the middle of the night to nurse?"

"Youíre right: I donít want to get up; thatís why my husband gets up and brings the baby to me."

"Iíd rather nurse in my sleep than schlep to the kitchen and try to mix, heat up, and feed my baby formula in my sleep Ö because I sure do love sleeping."

"We co-sleep. I just roll over, give him the breast, and go back to snoozing!"

"There goes your sex life. "

"My husband would be really shocked to hear that Ö especially after we Ö well, Iíd better not say any more."

"Are you speaking from experience?"

"How long are you going to keep nursing?"

"Oh, another 10 minutes or so..."

"Until I finish medical school to become a doctor!"

"Isn't he a little old for that?"

"Aren't you a little old to be wearing those jeans?"

"His doctor doesn't think so."

"What?! He's not even out of diapers!"

"Aren't you a little old to be randomly coming up to strangers and asking impolite questions?"

"He doesn't NEED to nurse at this age!"

"He doesn't need his teddy bear either and but we still give it to him."

(laugh) "Where did you hear that?"

"He can HEAR you, you know."

"And you don't NEED to eat that doughnut, but you still are."

"And you should be OVER the whole thing by now, are you still afraid of a breastfeeding child?"

Miscellaneous Responses

"If you are offended by me doing this, then you are looking too closely."

"Do you often look this closely at women's breasts?"

"It is illegal to harass a mother breastfeeding in public or to ask her to cover up. If you still have a problem feel free to call the police. You can explain to them why you are breaking the law."

And of course, you all know our favorite:

If breastfeeding offends you, put a blanket over YOUR head!
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OMG Kara is she 8 months old already? I haven't seen you (or her ) in forever.
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Old 04-16-2010, 02:07 PM
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i fail to understand why others really give a shit how a mom feeds her baby.

i've had plenty of stares, head-shakes, stupid comments...many of them in that post. i breastfeed until they are 2 years old and i never introduced solids until they were one, so you can only imagine.

people need to mind their own business.

edit: Kara, where the HECK did the 8 months go?
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Old 04-16-2010, 02:23 PM
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Not a mom, but I just want to know why people think they have the right to judge anyone for any reason? So stupid that people do that. Sorry for you ladies who have been through it.
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Old 04-16-2010, 02:35 PM
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Amber we miss you!!! It has been forever! Not sure if Zander is playing soccer but we are out at TMS every Saturday!

And I have no idea how Melayna is 8 months old!!! It breaks my heart but i so exciting!

And I totally don't mind stares or comments! Makes me want to laugh at them! Ignorance amuses me!
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i've had plenty of stares, head-shakes, stupid comments...many of them in that post. i breastfeed until they are 2 years old and i never introduced solids until they were one, so you can only imagine.
UN-friggen-BELIEVABLE. I just don't get it.
I WISH I had been able to BF that long.
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Old 04-16-2010, 02:40 PM
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Amber we miss you!!! It has been forever! Not sure if Zander is playing soccer but we are out at TMS every Saturday!

And I have no idea how Melayna is 8 months old!!! It breaks my heart but i so exciting!

And I totally don't mind stares or comments! Makes me want to laugh at them! Ignorance amuses me!
He didn't want to play this year. He was convinced that if he played soccer that it was going to overlap with Football. I assured him that he could do both but he still didn't want to do it. Too cute. I'll have to come watch one of the boys' games at TMS one of these Saturday's since it's less then a mile from my house. PM me what time do you play tomorrow and I will try to come over.
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Sorry, I ventured over here when I saw this topic on the main board. Hope that's ok. Love the comebacks!

I get a lot of grief for still nursing my 2 year old. To be honest, I never thought I would still be doing it this long but I don't get why people think it's a big deal or any of their business. My family and friends thought I was a hero for pumping for my twins for a year and a half, but nursing a child past a year is weird and gross? I don't get it.
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if babies were fed through our fingertips, no one would care. hypocrisy is amazing.
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oh, and just to clarify...no one should judge the other side. why judge how a mom feeds her child, provided she's caring for her child?

some women choose not to breastfeed, and others have no choice. we have no way of knowing who is who, and it's no one's place to find out.
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oh, and just to clarify...no one should judge the other side. why judge how a mom feeds her child, provided she's caring for her child?

some women choose not to breastfeed, and others have no choice. we have no way of knowing who is who, and it's no one's place to find out.
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oh, and just to clarify...no one should judge the other side. why judge how a mom feeds her child, provided she's caring for her child?

some women choose not to breastfeed, and others have no choice. we have no way of knowing who is who, and it's no one's place to find out.
Couldn't agree more!
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oh, and just to clarify...no one should judge the other side. why judge how a mom feeds her child, provided she's caring for her child?

some women choose not to breastfeed, and others have no choice. we have no way of knowing who is who, and it's no one's place to find out.
Thank you for saying this too! I can't believe some of the nasty things that were said to me or implied when I told people I wasn't breastfeeding DD anymore! At least this time around I'm prepared and have some snarky comments of my own!

That being said, it's great for all those mommies who breastfed and could do it for as long as they wanted!!!
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Some people are idiots who believe they know what is best for everybody else, and they don't shy away from sharing that opinion.

What I do with my vagina and boobs is entirely my business and nobody should even think about telling me what to do with them unless I specfically ask for their opinion.

Everybody and their dog told me I should stop BFing as it's going to ruin my boy's teeth, mouth, he's going to end up with mother issues, on the pshych's chair, etc.

Mind you, he was 2 when he was weaned, it's not like he was going to college still attached to my boob.

What do people know about the hundreds of times I cried myself to sleep because my baby had severe reflux, would not take solids of any kind, or a bottle of any kind despite my best efforts, and was screaming in pain when he ate? What do they know about my struggle to do everything in my power to keep him fed and nourished the only way he would accept, BF, as he was failing to thrive? What do they know about the mom working full time, who is crying at work, because she can't quit her job, and her baby is screaming at home, and the only source of food that baby will accept, the breast, is not within reach?
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Some people are idiots who believe they know what is best for everybody else, and they don't shy away from sharing that opinion.

What I do with my vagina and boobs is entirely my business and nobody should even think about telling me what to do with them unless I specfically ask for their opinion.

Everybody and their dog told me I should stop BFing as it's going to ruin my boy's teeth, mouth, he's going to end up with mother issues, on the pshych's chair, etc.

Mind you, he was 2 when he was weaned, it's not like he was going to college still attached to my boob.

What do people know about the hundreds of times I cried myself to sleep because my baby had severe reflux, would not take solids of any kind, or a bottle of any kind despite my best efforts, and was screaming in pain when he ate? What do they know about my struggle to do everything in my power to keep him fed and nourished the only way he would accept, BF, as he was failing to thrive? What do they know about the mom working full time, who is crying at work, because she can't quit her job, and her baby is screaming at home, and the only source of food that baby will accept, the breast, is not within reach?
i cannot imagine how hard that was for you, Roxana.

totally agree. people need to know when to STFU and mind their own business. unfortunately, there are a few zealot know-it-all big-mouths on both sides of the aisle that have scarred the message and turned mothers against each other instead of uniting us. for that i say a hearty fuck off to them.

oh, and i'd like to see evidence that breastmilk will ruin a baby's/toddler's teeth.
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Right on.

I agreee with the zealots on both sides comment.

I also feel for the poor mothers who REALLY try to BF, but are unable to, because of any combination of the miriad of reasons out there - baby in the NICU, poor supply, lack of information and help, cracked/bleeding nipples, thrush, work, you name it.

It might be a natural thing, but man, it is not easy, for most of us, especially in the beginning. By the end of my Bfing odissey I could have BFed standing on my head, holding the baby with one hand (not that I tried it), but the first weeks I was homicidal.
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I also feel for the poor mothers who REALLY try to BF, but are unable to, because of any combination of the miriad of reasons out there - baby in the NICU, poor supply, lack of information and help, cracked/bleeding nipples, thrush, work, you name it.

It might be a natural thing, but man, it is not easy, for most of us, especially in the beginning.
An article for those US moms who wanted to bf and who had every intention to bf and/or who wanted to go longer.

There are reasons why something natural is not easy in the US.

Love the responses. I was only hassled a little when I was bfing, and strangely enough, it was when I was bfing my then 14 month old extremely sick child who physically lacked the muscle power to "chew" (or whatever it is that toddlers do with their food once it gets in their mouths LOL) and swallow. Her only source of calories was breastmilk--so I should stop? In what universe does that make sense?
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I can't say I ever had any comments or stares even really when I bf my two kids. The closest (kinda funny) thing that happened was a time when it was just me and my son together in a restaurant and I started to feed him as soon as I sat down and the young male waiter looked so embarrassed when he handed me the men, he kind of handed me the menu with his head half turned and his eyes averted. My son was under a nursing blanket even. But I don't think he was offended, he was just trying to give me privacy.

My favourite of those comebacks is:
"If you are offended by me doing this, then you are looking too closely."
Couldn't be more true, really!
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