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HELP! Baby won't take a bottle :(

UGH! So, here we are, almost 4 months old and Connor won't take a bottle of expressed milk He has only had to take 3 bottles in his whole life (1 from my mom at 2 weeks old and 2 from Sam shortly there after). Two weekends ago Sam and I went out to dinner and a movie and my MIL had to give him a bottle..without success. We didn't make much of it becasue my MIL can be a bit of a drama queen She said he gagged and choked and just plain wouldn't latch on

Well, in any case, we decided to test that theory tonight when my brother and SIL came over for the evening. Sure enough, he wouldn't take the bottle. Sam tried, SIL tried, no luck Exactly the same reaction that my MIL had described We got online to look for a few tricks for Trish to try and he didn't fall for it (repeatedly touch his nose and chin with the nipple and let him search for the nipple, lay him in his normal nursing position and offer the bottle).

I don't know what to do Normally it wouldn't be a big deal. I'm here to nurse him whenever and take him with me just about everywhere I go. Unfortunately, my mom is pretty sick right now and won't be getting any better. My dad really needs my help with taking her to the Dr, blood work, and for treatments, but becasue of the flu and H1N1 children aren't allowed in Dr's offices around here and children aren't allowed into the treatment area at her oncologist's office. I really need to be able to leave Connor with Sam or a sitter so that I can help out.

Any advice to "trick" him into a bottle? Any suggestions on "more natural" nipples/bottles? We currently use the Dr. Brown's glass bottles.
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Anyone? I'm out and about right now and was hoping to stop at BRU to get a new bottle to try.
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i have heard good things about platex drop-in with the natural latch latex nipple (?). not sure if that's what it's called exactly, but i know the nipple comes in silicone and latex, and most people rec the latex one for some reason. i have no tried it myself b/c i am allergic to latex.

i think getting him to take a bottle will just take time. keep trying... preferably someone other than yourself.

eta: whatever bottle/nipple you get, make sure it's a slow flow one.
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Old 03-06-2010, 11:52 AM
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i have heard good things about platex drop-in with the natural latch latex nipple (?). not sure if that's what it's called exactly, but i know the nipple comes in silicone and latex, and most people rec the latex one for some reason. i have no tried it myself b/c i am allergic to latex.

i think getting him to take a bottle will just take time. keep trying... preferably someone other than yourself.

eta: whatever bottle/nipple you get, make sure it's a slow flow one.
I agree with that^. I remember having luck with Avent nipples and the playtex ones that Cat mentioned, although I don't remember if they were silicone or latex.
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Old 03-06-2010, 11:59 AM
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None of my kiddos have ever taken a bottle. They all think they are toys! But since you are nursing there is a bottle that is harder to find but is more like nursing. Amber (fancypants) had them when her youngest was a baby and I ordered mine from Kohls. I haven't had the need to use them yet but I really like the concept of them! Good luck!

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Old 03-06-2010, 01:59 PM
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i have heard good things about platex drop-in with the natural latch latex nipple (?). not sure if that's what it's called exactly, but i know the nipple comes in silicone and latex, and most people rec the latex one for some reason. i have no tried it myself b/c i am allergic to latex.

i think getting him to take a bottle will just take time. keep trying... preferably someone other than yourself.

eta: whatever bottle/nipple you get, make sure it's a slow flow one.
Thanks Cat I got your responce while I was at BRU so I got the Playtex ones as well as 2 other to try.

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I agree with that^. I remember having luck with Avent nipples and the playtex ones that Cat mentioned, although I don't remember if they were silicone or latex.
Thanks! IF the ones I have don't do the trick I'll pick up an Avent


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None of my kiddos have ever taken a bottle. They all think they are toys! But since you are nursing there is a bottle that is harder to find but is more like nursing. Amber (fancypants) had them when her youngest was a baby and I ordered mine from Kohls. I haven't had the need to use them yet but I really like the concept of them! Good luck!

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Thanks! Another one to try if need be
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They sell those at Target.

My son wouldn't take a bottle for awhile. We just kept trying and he eventually took one. (Probably after a month or so.) I know some people say to starve them into submission but IMO that just pisses them off even more. Actually what really helped was putting him in his little bouncer chair to feed him a bottle. I think he associated being held to eat with nursing. Good luck!
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Old 03-06-2010, 02:55 PM
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I never had any trouble with my children because I started them on a bottle of expressed milk a day as soon as they were born just so I wouldn't have a problem later on. My SIL did have a problem with her baby though and she used this bottle.

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I know that it's good to have a slow flow so the baby doesn't choke like the others said but you'd be surprised as to how fast breast milk comes out when nursing. Many bottles are too slow and it frustrates the baby because they have to work harder to get a flow out of the bottle that they are used to getting out of your breast. You could try to go to the next flow up and see what happens. Like others have said he will eventually get the idea. I would try to give him a bottle every day even if you're around just to get him used to the idea. So many people tell new nursing mothers not to give the baby a pacifier or a bottle the first 3 weeks of life because it will confuse them but I totally disagree. I think if anything it teaches them that they will have a variety of different shapes and textures in their mouths and they'll get used to that idea quicker if introduced right away.
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I never had any trouble with my children because I started them on a bottle of expressed milk a day as soon as they were born just so I wouldn't have a problem later on. My SIL did have a problem with her baby though and she used this bottle.

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I know that it's good to have a slow flow so the baby doesn't choke like the others said but you'd be surprised as to how fast breast milk comes out when nursing. Many bottles are too slow and it frustrates the baby because they have to work harder to get a flow out of the bottle that they are used to getting out of your breast. You could try to go to the next flow up and see what happens. Like others have said he will eventually get the idea. I would try to give him a bottle every day even if you're around just to get him used to the idea. So many people tell new nursing mothers not to give the baby a pacifier or a bottle the first 3 weeks of life because it will confuse them but I totally disagree. I think if anything it teaches them that they will have a variety of different shapes and textures in their mouths and they'll get used to that idea quicker if introduced right away.
ain't that the truth. milk can come out so fast and forceful, it can spray another person across the room!

regarding giving a pacifier or bottle in the first three weeks...it depends on the baby and how they are doing with nursing. if they are already struggling, introducing bottles and pacifiers may only make things worse. in an established breastfeeding relationship, introducing those items will likely have no issues at all. nothing is concrete in breastfeeding.

i'm clueless with bottles...believe it or not.

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We went through the same thing at 3 months. We introduced the bottle at 3 weeks and she was taking it fine. We just got lazy and started to skip days and sooner or later it was twice a week she was getting a bottle. At 3 months, she flat out refused. She would scream as soon as she saw the bottle coming toward her. Actually bottle rejection has been a bigger issue with my friends as opposed to nipple confusion so I really should have known better.

At this point, we just got really consistent with doing the bottle. DH would try at the same time each day. He would try taking her outside or holding her different ways. Actually taking her outside worked really well. We never skipped a day for fear that she would regress. Eventually it got to the point that she would take 2-3 ounces, just enough to take the edge off until I got back.

We also tried several types of bottles, but we never found one that she took to immediately. Eventually we settled on the one she hated the least and stayed with it. That was the Sassy Mam ultivent. I have heard trying the bait and switch. Put him on the boob and then take him off and give him the bottle. In our experience it didn't really work. Consistency and persistence were the key for us. If all else fails, you can try introducing the sippy cup or straw cup with bm. Those are different enough from the boob that he may accept those. PM me if you would like as this issue caused great fits for us for many weeks.

ETA: In the beginning, there were lots of tears and fits, but in the end it worked out okay. Also, in the beginning, I would not be in the same room or house even if somebody else is giving the bottle. I think that just frustrates the child when mom/boob are there and you are trying to get them to drink out of a bottle. At least that was our experience. Good luck to you.

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ain't that the truth. milk can come out so fast and forceful, it can spray another person across the room!

regarding giving a pacifier or bottle in the first three weeks...it depends on the baby and how they are doing with nursing. if they are already struggling, introducing bottles and pacifiers may only make things worse. in an established breastfeeding relationship, introducing those items will likely have no issues at all. nothing is concrete in breastfeeding.

i'm clueless with bottles...believe it or not.

my sister loved Avent.
Yeah, this makes perfect sense. I guess I didn't even think about nipple confusion if the baby wasn't a good nurser. All of my children wanted to be on the boob all day long When they told me not to introduce the pacifier for 3 weeks I was like "yeah okay" My children would use me as a pacifier all day if I didn't give them the binkie. I guess it just depends on the baby. Actually my 2nd baby would not even have anything to do with the pacifier. Babies are amazing and difficult little people
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Also, I would suggest starting with one ounce at a time. That way if he doesn't take any you don't have to pour liquid gold down the drain. At the beginning drinking one ounce was a victory for us.
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^ yep.

liquid gold is a very good term for it.

for the record, none of my six babies would even entertain the IDEA of a bottle. we tried every so often with my expressed milk (we put VERY little, but enough)...and they all looked at us like we had horns. all of them love(d) to nurse.

it worked for me since i'm at home and have absolutely no problem nursing wherever, whenever. i'm so discreet no one knows i'm even feeding.

three of them took binkies though.
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it worked for me since i'm at home and have absolutely no problem nursing wherever, whenever. i'm so discreet no one knows i'm even feeding.

three of them took binkies though.
I have so many friends like this but I was the complete opposite. I really had to pretty much have my entire shirt and bra off to get a good latch. There was no such thing as discreet for me. I would only nurse at home, in my car, or in a room with a closed and locked door It just didn't come natural to me, but my babies loved it.
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you know, there's something to be said for that as well.

i love getting away and going to my room to nurse; it gives baby and me a little special time too. they love it, and i love it too. i was fortunate in that it came easily...except E struggled a little at the beginning; i was on pain meds for my kidney stones and it made her sleepy and lazy.

i'll miss breastfeeding when E weans. i'll nurse her until she's 2, and that will make almost 13 years of constant pregnancy and/or breastfeeding for me...not a single day break.

it'll be bittersweet for sure.
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Same as Shi, neither of my two wanted anything to do with a bottle. While I didn't mind *most* of the time, it kinda sucked if we wanted to do something, like go out to dinner. We would take the kid(s) to my mom's, and I would BF right before we'd leave, but we'd still be very limited on how much time we had (at least until they were older). But, since I stopped at around 13 months with both of them, it wasn't that long a time, and I still think it was worth breastfeeding
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Ava loves to nurse too. Taking a bottle for her was a skill she had to learn and practice regularly. I swear sometimes her little face was saying "okay Dad I'll drink a little just to get his over with." On the plus side, getting her off the bottle was a piece of cake. I don't think she missed it at all.
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Thanks for the help and suggestions everyone I agree; I would prefer to nurse, unfortunately for me, there are just times when it will just not be possible for me
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So I know I am going to be returning to work in August, and I am supposed to be having this baby soon like tomorrow. When should I start introducing a bottle to him so that when I am at work he will take one?
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i wish devon still nursed. for a baby who loves to put things in her mouth, she clamps her mouth shut when she sees my boob. she loves her bottle now. pumping sucks. i hate hate hate it.
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So I know I am going to be returning to work in August, and I am supposed to be having this baby soon like tomorrow. When should I start introducing a bottle to him so that when I am at work he will take one?
Jasmin we never used a bottle and I went back to work when H was 8 weeks old. DH just brought the baby to me to eat. At about 4 months old I would head to work at 9 - H would nurse at 12 and then again at 3. That worked/works well for us. He will also use a sippy cup if he seems thirsty and I'm not immediately available.

Jennifer, So sorry to hear that your mom is ill.
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Jasmin we never used a bottle and I went back to work when H was 8 weeks old. DH just brought the baby to me to eat. At about 4 months old I would head to work at 9 - H would nurse at 12 and then again at 3. That worked/works well for us. He will also use a sippy cup if he seems thirsty and I'm not immediately available.

Jennifer, So sorry to hear that your mom is ill.
My DH works everyday so that is out. I think I will need to pump, I am working 15 hours a week broken up into three days starting the end of August and Sam will be 4 months old. My work is fine with me bringing him to work some days but not everyday. MIL or SIL will be watching Samson during this time.
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Jasmine - I would introduce the bottle at 3 weeks assuming BF is going well. See if he takes the bottle and pay attention to how he nurses afterwards. If he has trouble latching on or is displaying signs of nipple confusion, I would wait another week or two before trying again. Once he takes the bottle and nurses well afterwards, continue giving the bottle once a day. I would encourage you to get DH to do it so you get a break. If you stay consistent, he should take the bottle okay. Although sometimes you get a child who wants absolutely nothing to do with the bottle.

If this is your case, I think you will be okay as you are doing 5 hour shifts right? It's possible he might just decide for you to come back and take his BM from the tap. I just think it gave me peace of mind to know that she would take a little bit from the bottle. God forbid I get hit by a bus or become seriously ill, there would be another way for DD to be fed.
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i wish devon still nursed. for a baby who loves to put things in her mouth, she clamps her mouth shut when she sees my boob. she loves her bottle now. pumping sucks. i hate hate hate it.
I can totally sympathize. I hated pumping too; couldn't wait for it to be over.
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So I know I am going to be returning to work in August, and I am supposed to be having this baby soon like tomorrow. When should I start introducing a bottle to him so that when I am at work he will take one?
Honestly if the baby is nursing well upon leaving the hospital I would introduce the bottle within a week. I introduced the bottle and pacifier with all 3 of my children within 5 days or so and they were just fine with either the bottle or breast feeding. If you wait 3 weeks they may be too adjusted and used to the breast and they may fight the bottle. This is of course just my opinion and every baby is different. You could always try at about 5 days and if it doesn't work then keep trying every couple of days after that.
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